Saturday, July 16, 2011

Getting Beyond "Overwhelmed"

The jobs that have to be done before the movers arrive on July 24th total pages instead of paragraphs… or at least I think they do. For the past week I have hidden in my office answering non-essential emails and playing games in an effort to hide from this feeling  I have of being overwhelmed.
We’ve lived in our house for 17 years and each closet has treasures and memories. What do I do with all of those cards the kids made when they were little? A five year old backward lettering signature from Acacia, a task coupon book from Phillip. Hmmm, do you think I can still redeem the “wash the dishes” coupon? The urge to put the packing aside again and hide in my office is huge, but if I am to be ready when the movers come in a 1 ½ weeks I need to get through all of this.
Part of this journey to India is around deciding what is important. I’m quickly realizing that things can be replaced, but memories of people and events will be stored in my heart and taken with me.
OK, but I still have a house to get through.  I need to focus.
I walk to the biggest closet downstairs. It is packed so tightly that when I open the door, things fall on my head. Luckily they are soft.  OK, my friend Colette Robicheau told me about the 3 bin method. (Go to her website. She has a ton of useful information I’ve marked one “Keep”, one “Give Away/Sell/Donate” and one “Throw away”.  The feeling of “overwhelmed” hits me but I’m going to work through it.
Now I’m on a roll and I know that I can get through this. I get through the closet in a little over an hour. Now I’m feeling more confident and I know using the 3 bin system I can get through all that needs to be done. I’ve mapped out a list of my to-do’s and it doesn’t seem as bad as I thought.
This seems like a great system for uncluttering the junk in my emotional closet as well. I’ve decided that I am going to keep all of the good memories. I know all of the things that worked to build the wonderful friendships and I’m going to move those positive feelings and habits with me to India.
I’m going to give away appreciation to people I care about. The wonderful thing about this give away is that I end up keeping twice as much but that’s beyond OK.
Finally, I’m going to throw away the emotional junk. Slights I’ve held on to, grudges, insecurities, shame… they’re all going in the trash heep.

Thursday, July 7, 2011

Mindfulness and the Pain of Multi - Tasking

My friend Tammy Isa is a brilliant woman who juggles a busy career along with motherhood and being a great partner to her husband Shareef. She sent me this post today and I thought it was so good it should be re-posted so more people could read it. Here it is...

Overlapping is something I find myself doing. Trying to work on two things simultaneously.  Usually half successful. The lesson in my action became apparent for me last evening.

I was readying myself to turn in for the evening. And, as usual, I was doing two things at once...

*         Reading an article atop my dresser

*         And pulling my hair back to ready myself for my cleansing routine.

First I clipped my hair. Then, as  I was pulling on the hairband it got caught in the clip.
I pulled at it and continued to read. Next thing, SNAP, the band slapped into my Left Eye.


Here's the good news,  I can see.  Praise the Lord. My eye is simply bruised and swollen.

My son Kadin was rewarded with a bandana from our friends the Mehta's when he broke his arm snowboarding.  It's become my eye sling! I'm wearing it as a patch to cover my eye for the next few days.  I'm feeling and looking like a pirate.   There is some fun it that actually.

Onto the lesson...

Reflecting on the situation, I have determined that I strive regularly to be 'efficient'.  Yet in the moment, I often am not. Case in point with the hairband.  It's cost me more time than I ever gained...

My Lesson- to be more mindful of the activity at hand and complete the task before I set-out on the next. I recognize that this change to being more mindful and completing one task before I start the next will be hard. The consequence of not choosing to do better could be a lot worse next time.

I am sharing this with you to acknowledge you, and to cause you to reflect on your own patterns.
I believe we all go to fast, and do too much in one moment.   We're trying to squeeze everything in...and make the most efficient use of our time.

I wonder if we consider increasing our focus to complete the task, whether we could get better results?

And I fear that this really is a warning.  A wake up call to make me take notice.
Next time, I could be driving...

With love,